{"id":778,"date":"2009-02-11T16:33:20","date_gmt":"2009-02-11T14:33:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/?p=778"},"modified":"2009-02-11T16:33:20","modified_gmt":"2009-02-11T14:33:20","slug":"about-not-walking-on-eggshells","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/?p=778","title":{"rendered":"about <em>not<\/em> walking on eggshells"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.thefword.org.uk\/features\/2008\/04\/walking_on_eggs\">&#8220;Walking on eggshells&#8221;<\/a>: an excellent, profoundly thought-provoking essay @ <em>The F-Word<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Where\u2019s the liberation in walking on eggshells? Where\u2019s the empowerment in feeling equal only to adolescent boys and women?<\/p>\n<p>So what happens if I not only leave the realm of object, if I focus on men but I\u2019m not deferential, submissive or flirtatious either? I have stopped walking on eggshells as much as I can bear to. I follow my fear into situations of potential male violence and disapproval: situations where passivity, acquiescence and submission feel safer or more appealing than taking control. I take note. [&#8230;]<\/p>\n<p>To be treated as an equal I need to say what I want, express all the things I feel about men, even if some are critical, do what I want, and above all stop walking on eggshells and start tackling men. All that and accept &#8211; welcome &#8211; his disapproval and anger because it means I\u2019m finding something out about him. I\u2019m finding out if he wants a human or an object. And when I don\u2019t get control, disapproval and anger I know I\u2019ve found equality.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.alexbrew.co.uk\/index.html\">Alex Brew<\/a>, author <a href=\"http:\/\/www.artselector.com\/collective\/photography\/AlexBrew\/Askingforit\/\">&#8220;Asking for It&#8221;<\/a> project, cofounder <a href=\"http:\/\/femadlibkolektiv.blogspot.com\/\">FemAdLib Kolektiv<\/a> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Walking on eggshells&#8221;: an excellent, profoundly thought-provoking essay @ The F-Word Where\u2019s the liberation in walking on eggshells? Where\u2019s the empowerment in feeling equal only to adolescent boys and women? So what happens if I not only leave the realm &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/?p=778\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[38,28,9,41,3,8,17,31,26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-778","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-bodily-autonomy","category-body-image","category-critica-sociala","category-english","category-feminism","category-links","category-media","category-menmale-allies","category-sexuality"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/778","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=778"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/778\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":779,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/778\/revisions\/779"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=778"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=778"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=778"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}