{"id":1239,"date":"2010-02-27T11:14:24","date_gmt":"2010-02-27T09:14:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/?p=1239"},"modified":"2010-03-03T01:06:21","modified_gmt":"2010-03-02T23:06:21","slug":"femeile-trebuie-sa-stie-cum-se-urca-in-lift","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/?p=1239","title":{"rendered":"Femeile trebuie sa stie cum se urca in lift!"},"content":{"rendered":"

…apropos de cazurile de agresiune recente de la Iasi<\/a> si de cazuri de agresiune contra femeilor in general:<\/p>\n

Un psiholog “expert criminalist” este de parere ca, intr-adevar, femeile se pot apara – mai exact, isi pot modifica orice comportament ‘provocator’ si inceta sa mai invite agresiunile, pentru ca, evident, este vina lor ca sint agresate (“Femeile pot \u015fi trebuie s\u01ce fie prudente. Femeile trebuie s\u01ce \u015ftie cum se urc\u01ce \u00een lift \u015fi s\u01ce nu ne n\u01cep\u01cedeasc\u01ce pe noi c\u01ce au fost violate \u00een lift. C\u00e2nd \u015fi cu cine. S\u01ce \u015ftie s\u01ce umble pe c\u01cer\u01ceri care sunt luminate \u015fi care sunt populate. S\u01ce nu se bat\u01ce ca exploratorii \u00een miez de noapte parcurile \u015fi s\u01ce vin\u01ce apoi la adresa poli\u0163iei c\u01ce au fost violate. \u015ei s\u01ce \u015ftie cu cine intr\u01ce \u00een discu\u0163ie \u015fi cu cine accept rela\u0163ii \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Comportamentul \u01cesta de leli\u0163\u01ce balcanic\u01ce, din p\u01cecate, cu excep\u0163ia acestor victime … \u01ce\u01ce\u01ce\u01ce, care nu au dat dovad\u01ce de el, este caracteristic pi\u0163ipoancelor \u015fi devin victime pentru c\u01ce sunt victime de tip provocator, mare majoritate din ele.” – T. Butoi)<\/p>\n

Culpabilizarea victimei<\/a> @ Blogul Medusei<\/em><\/p>\n

Ieri pe Realitatea tv, \u00een toiul discu\u0163iilor despre agresiunile de la Ia\u015fi, a fost contactat telefonic un expert criminalist, Tudorel Butoi. Care spre finalul interven\u0163iei sale \u00een direct, m\u00e2ndru de \u00een\u0163eleptele cuvinte care-i ie\u015feau pe gur\u0103, s-a apucat s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 vinov\u0103\u0163ii femeilor care sufer\u0103 agresiuni pe strad\u0103, \u00een parcuri sau \u00een ascensoare. […]
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Domnul Tudorel Butoi, reprezentant al for\u0163elor Statului, le g\u0103se\u015fte agresorilor justific\u0103ri pentru actele de violen\u0163\u0103 pe care le comit. Are exact g\u00e2ndirea unui violator care \u00ee\u015fi spune sie\u015fi c\u0103 a fost provocat de victim\u0103 s\u0103 comit\u0103 violen\u0163a. C\u0103 victima \u015fi-a meritat-o. \u015ei pe deasupra, domnul Butoi nu se fere\u015fte s\u0103 jigneasc\u0103 femeile care sunt agresate, spun\u00e2nd c\u0103 \u00een majoritatea cazurilor este vorba de pi\u0163ipoance \u015fi femei cu comportamente de \u201eleli\u0163e balcanice\u201d. Culpabilizarea victimei are efectul de a elibera agresorul de stigmatul social, oferindu-i o legitimare a ac\u0163iunilor. Iar efectul asupra victimei este extrem de nociv, \u00eengreun\u00e2ndu-i recuperarea.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 astfel de declara\u0163ii, domnul Butoi ar trebui s\u0103 aib\u0103 interzis \u00een a mai ap\u0103rea public vreodat\u0103 \u00een calitate de expert criminalist. Acest om nu poate reprezenta vocea autorit\u0103\u0163ii judiciare din Rom\u00e2nia av\u00e2nd asemenea mentalit\u0103\u0163i!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

“Femeile trebuie sa stie cum se urca in lift”… ar fi amuzant, daca nu ar fi atit de tragic! <\/p>\n

Probabil ca prof. univ. dr. Butoi nu a auzit de “Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work!”<\/a> – care la rindul lor ar fi amuzante, daca pareri ca a d-nului Butoi mai mult sau mai putin experte despre vinovatia victimelor si justificarea violentei si lipsa de responsabilitate a agresorilor nu ar fi atit de raspindite incit sa faca orice altfel de sfat nu numai amuzant, dar de neconceput…<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t put drugs in people\u2019s drinks in order to control their behavior.<\/p>\n

2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!<\/p>\n

3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!<\/p>\n

4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.<\/p>\n

5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON\u2019T ASSAULT THEM!<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.<\/p>\n

7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.<\/p>\n

8. Always be honest with people! Don\u2019t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don\u2019t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.<\/p>\n

9. Don\u2019t forget: you can\u2019t have sex with someone unless they are awake!<\/p>\n

10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone \u201con accident\u201d you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.<\/p>\n

And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn\u2019t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are commiting a crime- no matter how \u201cinto it\u201d others appear to be.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

…apropos de cazurile de agresiune recente de la Iasi si de cazuri de agresiune contra femeilor in general: Un psiholog “expert criminalist” este de parere ca, intr-adevar, femeile se pot apara – mai exact, isi pot modifica orice comportament ‘provocator’ … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[38,9,3,31,2,7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1239","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-bodily-autonomy","category-critica-sociala","category-feminism","category-menmale-allies","category-01romana","category-romania"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1239","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1239"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1239\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1258,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1239\/revisions\/1258"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1239"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1239"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fia.pimienta.org\/weblog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1239"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}