some simple advice:<\/p>\n
Listen. The men in your lives will tell you what they do. As long as the R word doesn\u2019t get attached, rapists do self-report. The guy who says he sees a woman too drunk to know where she is as an opportunity is not joking. He\u2019s telling you how he sees it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
The guy who says, \u201cbros before hos\u201d, is asking you to make a pact.<\/p>\n
The Pact. The social structure that allows the predators to hide in plain sight, to sit at the bar at the same table with everyone, take a target home, rape her, and stay in the same social circle because she can\u2019t or won\u2019t tell anyone, or because nobody does anything if she does. The pact to make excuses, to look for mitigation, to patch things over \u2014 to believe that what happens to our friends \u2014 what our friends do to our friends \u2014 is not (using Whoopi Goldberg\u2019s pathetic apologetics) \u201crape-rape\u201d.<\/p>\n
Change the culture\u2026 [W]e need to change the environment that the rapist operates in. Choose not to be part of a rape-supportive environment. Rape jokes are not jokes. Woman-hating jokes are not jokes. These guys are telling you what they think. When you laugh along to get their approval, you give them yours. You tell them that the social license to operate is in force; that you\u2019ll go along with the pact to turn your eyes away from the evidence; to make excuses for them; to assume it\u2019s a mistake, of the first time, or a confusing situation. You\u2019re telling them that they\u2019re at low risk.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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